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Top Five Films of 2023

It finally happened: I watched every film I wanted to see IN THE YEAR IT CAME OUT! For the first time, I’m making my annual “best of” list with a clear conscious. I can tell you with absolute confidence that Maestro needed a better script, and that Dream Scenario is the best movie Nicolas Cage has done in decades, and that Saltburn was a little too weird for me, and that May December gave me an overall feeling of discomfort… because I actually got to see them all! Thanks to the hybrid release model, I could watch the ones that most appealed to me in a theater, and stay home for the rest. I had the freedom to wear my cutest pink outfit to see Barbie at the Alamo Drafthouse with a pink cocktail, then put on pink sweats to watch it again at home with another pink cocktail. Win-Win.

2023 brought me a lot of cinema joy, but if I’m honest, I saw more classics on the big screen than new releases. There’s still a huge dearth of mid-budget, character-driven stories out there, which is my sweet spot in the entertainment landscape. I like movies with actors you’d recognize, with a good costume/production design budget and a tight script. I like movies that can be edited down to a 90-120 minute runtime, because if I have to kill my darlings as an author, filmmakers should have to kill a few of theirs too (looking at you Scorsese!). If you are also a fan of these things, you might like following picks as much as I did. Cheers!

1. Priscilla

Sofia Coppola’s nuanced portrait of Priscilla Presley is a return-to-form for one of my favorite directors who excels at showing the silent inner rage of a young woman. Often, they are women whom society wants to dress up like a doll and stick on a shelf, or in this case, a thickly-carpeted Graceland. Priscilla is a stylish, well-constructed story full of quiet moments that bring us to the root of who Elvis and Priscilla were, both individually and as a couple. Yes, the hair was big, but not nearly as big as my love for this movie.

2. Barbie

From the beautiful costumes, to the Slim Aarons influences on the set design, to the poignant message about women never feeling like they’re “enough”, Greta Gerwig’s Barbie was everything I needed it to be. It’s nostalgic, but it’s also progressive, using the beloved toys of my youth to tell a story that needed to be told. And my god, I don’t think I’ve ever laughed as hard in a movie theater as when Ryan Gosling started singing Matchbox Twenty’s “Push”. Comedy gold.

3. The Holdovers

I watch a lot of classic films, and one of my favorite cinema eras is the 1970s. So when I tell you that Alexander Payne’s The Holdovers feels like it was actually made in 1970, believe. We’ve lost the kinds of character-driven scripts and realistic performances that were the hallmark of that era, but Payne has given it back to us in this story of a teacher, a student, and a cook marooned together at a boarding school on Christmas. Da’Vine Joy Randolph steals the show (as she does in literally everything she’s in), but Paul Giamatti and Dominic Sessa more than keep up with her. These are people I want to spend the holidays with every year.

4. You Hurt My Feelings

I’m starting to think it’s impossible for Nicole Holofcener to make a movie that doesn’t speak directly to me. Just as she did with Friends With Money and Enough Said, she gave me You Hurt My Feelings at the time in my life when I most needed to see it. My debut novel hadn’t yet been released, it was failing to get early reads and reviews, and I felt just like Julia Louis-Dreyfus’s character- sitting at the bar with my head in my hands and a cold martini in front of me, doubting everything. Is this book any good? Am I any good? What if the people in my life who are telling me this is good are just lying because that’s what you’re supposed to do when you love a neurotic, untalented artist? They’re questions that will never have answers, but gosh it was nice to see someone else struggle with them for a little bit.

5. Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret.

A movie that captures the female experience at different stages so perfectly, Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret. is one I know I’ll be coming back to again and again. Director Kelly Fremon Craig is so good at conveying adolescent angst, but with this adaptation of the beloved Judy Blume book, she also gives us a story about complicated family dynamics and how the relationships from our past inform how we move through the present. This movie would have meant a lot to me if it had come out when I was eleven or twelve, but it still means a great deal at forty. And I suspect, it still will at sixty.

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Top Five Holiday Heroines

This holiday season, I’d like to draw your attention to some truly fabulous on-screen heroines. These are women who eschew an apron and gingerbread house in favor of a glamorous party dress and strong cocktail.  If I could, I would toast them all with this festive drink I whipped up with my favorite spirit Goodnight Loving Vodka (because every great heroine should have a favorite vodka), and I would tell them, “Thank You.” Thank you for being an inspiration to me and all the other women who view the holidays as a time to look fabulous, to have that second or third cocktail, and to never apologize for one’s domestic shortcomings. This year, even if you’re staying home, I encourage you to put on a nice outfit, mix the following drink, and watch one of the five films listed below. Leave the baking to somebody else. Cheers!

Hollywood Holiday Martini

2 oz Goodnight Loving Vodka

¾ oz Domaine de Canton Ginger Liqueur

1 oz Pomegranate Juice

½ oz Cranberry Juice

½ oz Lime Juice

Dried pomegranate or lime for garnish

Combine all ingredients in a shaker with ice. Shake until chilled, then strain into a martini glass. Garnish with a dried pomegranate or lime.

1) Carol Aird, Carol

Image credit: Carol, 2015

I’ve often said that nobody drinks a martini like Cate Blanchett, and this film is no exception. With Carol’s effortless style and seductive gaze, that cute shopgirl never stood a chance.

2) Gillian Holroyd, Bell, Book and Candle

Image credit: Bell, Book and Candle, 1958

Is she a witch? Or just a cat-loving Greenwich Village gallery owner with a penchant for spells and backless cocktail dresses? Come for the dark/quirky love story, stay for Gillian’s mid-century modern apartment. THAT COUCH.

3) Elizabeth Lane, Christmas in Connecticut

Image credit: Christmas in Connecticut, 1945

Throw a city-dwelling, child-free writer into a country home with rotating babies, a dreamy war hero, a clueless “fiancé”, and a meddling Hungarian chef, and see if she can learn to make pancakes. From one Liz to another, “Pass the vodka, please.”

4) Fran Kubelik, The Apartment

Image Credit: The Apartment, 1960

The epitome of Complicated Female, Miss Kubelik hides her inner demons behind a smile and crisp white gloves. But when confronted with a charming Jack Lemmon at the office Christmas party, she must decide who she wants in her life come New Year’s Eve—the womanizer at the downtown tiki bar, or the sweet man and his tennis racket full of spaghetti.

5) Mame Dennis, Auntie Mame

Image credit: Auntie Mame, 1958

The only thing that changes more frequently than the décor of Mame’s apartment is the liquor in her glass. Even during the Great Depression, Mame never sacrifices when it comes to her personal style. No money for a fancy hat? Grab some Christmas decorations, put ‘em on your head, and walk with confidence!

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2020 Holiday Gift Guide

Look, we all know 2020 is the year from Hell. If you put your Christmas tree up in September, you’ll get no judgement from me. We need the holidays right now. And more important, we need to show the people we love what they mean to us by sending thoughtful gifts or a kind note. This year, I’m doing my best to shop small, but if you absolutely must order from one of the bigger retailers like Amazon*, here are some great gift ideas. They all brought a smile to my face in a year when I didn’t think that was possible. Cheers!

  1. Fancy Sprinkles Prism Powder

If you feel like your beverages need an extra bit of sparkle to combat the dull sameness of life in lockdown, give this edible glitter a try. I started mixing a tiny spoonful into my cocktails a few months ago and never looked back. Glitter is here to stay.

2) Telescoping Straw

This portable metal straw is particularly useful now that so many establishments are offering cocktails to-go, but even post-pandemic, you’ll find yourself reaching for it when some bartender hands you a frozen beverage with a compostable paper straw. Just… no, dude.

3) Alright, Alright, Alright: The Oral History of Richard Linklater’s Dazed and Confused by Melissa Maerz

As soon as I heard about this book, I knew it would be going on my wish list. I’m dying to know who hooked up with who, and was that really paint they dumped on Ben Affleck??? BURNING QUESTIONS.

4) Soludos Smoking Slippers

These espadrilles are comfortable, stylish around the house, and best of all, they come embroidered with a variety of cocktails. I have the tequila and rosé versions, but I think I need to add another pair!

5) Tiki: Modern Tropical Cocktails by Shannon Mustipher

After a year of no travel, give yourself or someone you love the gift of exotic cocktails. January seems like a fine time to mix up a spicy rum beverage in a pineapple husk while watching Castaway, don’t you think?

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